Too Good to be True?

Okay.  Last week, I decided to take a break from match.com after having too many men contacting me that were either delusional or lazy.  Well, funny thing is, the minute I decide to boycott the site the good men started appearing.  So back in the saddle I go…

A man winked at me and I saw his picture and thought, “hmmm…not really my type” and was about to delete him when I decided to take a second look.  I checked out his profile and he sounded great:  45 years old, very athletic, father to one 12-year-old son, has his own law firm, and is from Hawaii, my heaven on Earth.

This is awesome!  Someone who’s cute and is employed…a rare find on this site.  So, I decided to wink back and he emailed saying he was very interested in meeting me.  We arranged to meet at 8:00 the next night at a bar/restaurant.  I was a nervous wreck and hoping for the best.

I walked in and was pleasantly surprised.  His picture didn’t do him justice.  He was gorgeous and in fantastic shape.  We instantly hit it off and ended up talking for 4 1/2 hours.  It was a great time and the goodbye kiss was insane.  I thought, “this is it, here’s the man of my dreams.”

That’s when I started to become paranoid.  Is this guy too good to be true?  Can he really be a lawyer?  Does he really run all these races?  Did he really attend these schools and obtain these degrees?

I started to panic and scoured the internet looking for any information I could find on him.  Hell, I even did a free background check to see if he had a criminal past.  I remembered he paid with cash the night we met, so it’s not like I saw a driver’s license or credit card with his name on it.  What if that wasn’t even his name?  Could he be one of those impostors who dupes women that you hear about on “Dateline”?

It got to the point where I was driving myself insane with worry and I had to shut it down or I’d lose my mind.  Turns out it really wasn’t necessary since he stood me up for lunch a couple of days later.  He apologized twice, saying his meeting ran late, but I didn’t know if I could believe him.  I really felt like it was a bunch of crap when he said he’d contact me to set up another time to meet and I never heard back.

So, I’ve decided once again to take a break from the ‘ole match.com and put the brakes on the dating thing.  It’s clear to me I’m not ready if I’m taking every little rejection personally and am paranoid every guy is a serial killer or a con artist.  Cable TV, here I come!